A couple of weeks ago I saw a tweet from my husband that disturbed me. He was getting upset about a post a coworker had posted about same sex couples raising children. His (the coworker) opinion was that gay people are not fit to raise children because it would confuse the child too much and they would have questions. He also stated that there are a lot of facts that he could bust up with but wouldn't. His wife states later in his post that "it is not fair that the child will be the one who struggles growing up because of the comments and the negativity put on them due to the situation." The persons profile is private so a person who was a friend of his on facebook showed me the post. (NOTE: the friend was printing out the post at the same time that the owner of the facebook page was deleting them from their friends list because they disagreed with what was being said and was commenting to that effect) I was going to quote my husbands tweet and comment on it in this blog and talk about gay adoption etc but last night he wrote something concerning these tweets and this facebook post that put into words his feelings about the situation to the point that I could not even begin to express it. I am sharing it here today:

Just some food for thought
So a recent situation arose on facebook about a month ago or so and it caused me to stop and think and ponder about life and it caused me to get upset. I was frustrated, saddened, and depressed by the statements that were posted to the facebook account of someone that I looked up to but find it hard to even look in their eyes now. 
The posts on facebook raised some questions in my head and caused me to think long and hard about the words that were said. I do know that it was posted on his facebook page and thusly is his own opinions and right to do so…but…it intermixed with work which is not OK. I will be keeping his name out of this, keeping the company we work for out of this, and I will not be listing any other person involved. Below is a blurb that I posted to my facebook and twitter following the events:
“That saddens, sickens, and revolts me…I can never look at u the same way…I’m so upset by ur words and comments…I want a child and I feel like u and people like u are trying to rob me of that simple joy…I don’t care if the children may have questions…I have questions growing up…I was bullied while growing up…my parents were married for a majority of my childhood and I always wondered y my friends had divorced parents and step parents…I always wondered y I wasn’t circumcised like the other boys in gym…or why I was taller than them…I always wondered y I was gay and they weren’t and y I was somehow less of a person…I always was told that gays were pedophiles and child molesters and that gays were immoral and wrong and less of a person…I wanted to kill myself so many times bc I was never told it was ok…that it was normal…I was put on mood altering drugs and forced to see a therapists who put me down for having these feelings…I felt like I would be better of dead than alive and gay…u sadden me and ur family may seem perfect and all complete bc of a man, a woman, and a kid but u just wait…ur time will come…I will still try to adopt and rescue a poor soul who was abandoned by a straight person like u at the orphanage left to feel all alone and forgotten…just u remember that…”
I am not going to lie, but after he made the comment that gays should not be allowed to adopt children because a child needs both a mom and a dad in their life as well as that by having same sex parents would raise some questions for children, I felt like dying all over again. I felt like I was in high school and feeling less than a person because of the way I was born. I have wanted nothing more than to raise a child in my life and it saddens me that bigots like this gentleman may end up removing my chances of doing so. 
What straight people do not understand is that, by being gay, it does not mean that I have aids or HIV…It does not mean that I want to be a woman…It does not mean that I am automatically a child molester or incapable of keeping a commitment with one partner…I did not just one day wake up and say I wanted to be hated by millions of people because I am “choosing” to be gay. One question that I want to ask you all…If this was a choice and us gays did not have to be with the same sex, then why is it that many gays have attempted suicide and many of them succeeded. I can not count on one hand how many times I thought about and or attempted to kill myself because I wanted nothing more than to not be gay because I was never told it was ok…That it was not a choice I had made but rather the fact that I was born this way. 
As I wrote the above statement after finding out what that gentleman had posted to facebook, I contemplated what a legacy I would leave behind if I just came home and ended it. I thought what would my work talk about, how they would remember me, and what my family would do. I thought about my husband and how this would affect him and what thoughts would protrude his mind. I came home and sat on my deck and cried. Tears filled my eyes and I kept thinking about that little boy or girl who was feeling the same way I was. Who felt that they were less than human because they are gay or lesbian and how strong many of them would be to stand up in the face of adversity and continue on. I thought about how much of a let down it would be for me to be cowardly and end it and instead I need to stand up for what is right and fight for all the rights us gays should have just for being human. 
My last statements for this post is to please seek help if you are in need. Do not let your voice go unheard. Help is here. There are many suicide prevention hot lines and they are there to talk to you and talk about what you are feeling. The world is not better off with out you no matter who you are. I don’t care if you are gay, straight, bi, transgender, a geek, a jock, or any other type of person. You are all human and are all beautiful in your own way. I am here if you need a friend and trust me, you are worthy of friendship!! Sorry about the heavy posting today. Peace, Love, and Boxer Briefs!!
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After reading this from my husband it made me dislike his coworker even more. People need to learn that what they say on facebook or any other social network is there forever and even if it is your opinion (and I do believe in freedom of speech),your opinion could affect others in both a positive and negative way and reflect on how people perceive you as a person. The funny thing is, this person who upset my husband is a christian (or thinks he is). Hope he realizes that Jesus preached love and not the bigoted hate that he is spewing before he meets his maker...