Pain and struggle are good. No one ever learns anything being comfortable and unchallenged. I want to call attention to the many ways and many folk who offered me a good kick in the rear. So many times in life we think “oh isn’t this awful, if only it would end then I’d be happy and could get on with my life”.Wrong. We don’t learn and remember our lessons if everything in our lives is easy, comfortable and nap inducing. Anything that I have mastered after much concerted effort has stayed with… Continue

First off, I want to say that I love this show. Every scene between Kurt and his dad is kind, hopeful, thoughtful, loving and insightful. If any of us had ever had an adult this supportive and non oppressive things would be quite different. However, I want to address the concept of duality or more appropriately , living with and managing our own contradictions. As a member of several divergent social circles, I understand the hunger for any representation. In gay circles, must everything gay be… Continue

In this wacky economy, there is a need for self reinvention. In the wild, living organisms adapt and change or die. So many of us refuse to listen to reason and refuse to alter what it is we’re doing simply because we can’t accept the fact that the pickle we have found ourselves in is one of our own creation. What part did any of us play in this current financial crises ? To listen to so many people tell it , none. Often times things occur and we end up looking around and asking ourselves, how… Continue

When I was ten, Tanya Nelson repeatedly tortured me by jabbing me with a compass. She sat behind me and constantly tormented me along with others for being a sissy. I took the abuse. I learned to tolerate it and even enjoyed figuring out ways to endure the humiliation. I decided that she, like my family of origin and everyone else who did so much harm to a young, precocious child was not going break me. I decided that I would win. My mother refused to take my pleas seriously and I never talked… Continue